Dr. S. J. Pickens
Obituary for Dr. S. J. Pickens
The Rules of the Shields Family
- Rule 1. Accept whatever comes without complaint
- Rule 2. Always exceed everyone's expectations including your own
- Rule 3. Play the hand you are dealt - and play the hell out of it.
One of the proudest events of her life occurred in 1963 when Dr. Pickens traveled to Alabama with freedom riders to help register black residents to vote and to integrate lunch counters. Dr. Pickens marched with King in Alabama and attended Dr. King's March on Washington. She said that she never thought she would live to see a black President but forty-five years after the March on Washington Dr. Pickens traveled to Washington DC with her husband to attend Barack Obama's inauguration on the National Mall in Washington DC.
Upon completion of her residency in psychiatry at University of Maryland Medical School, Dr. Pickens spent 10 years working in the Maryland State Health System as Clinical Director at Springfield Hospital and at Spring Grove Hospital.
Dr. Pickens married Hugh Pickens on December 24, 1984 with whom she recently celebrated 32 years of marriage. They lived in a 125 year old Victorian Mansion in Baltimore for 20 years.
Dr. Pickens was a board member of Friends Psychiatric Research Associates; is the past president of the Black Psychiatrists of America, Maryland Chapter, past president of Maryland Black Faculty and Staff, an examiner for the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, and a member of the American Psychiatric Association and Southern Psychiatric Association. Dr. Pickens was inducted into the American College of Psychiatry in 1996, one of only three physicians in the state of Oklahoma who have been so honored.
In 1999 Dr. Pickens retired and in 2005 decided to make her home in Ponca City, her husband's home town. Dr. Pickens was active as a docent at the Marland Mansion, served on the board of directors of Ponca Playhouse, and with her husband sponsored and produced the annual "Oklahoma Pride" series at Ponca Playhouse producing "The Broken Statue" and "Lydie Marland in the Afterlife." Dr. Pickens was also active in Newcomers.
For thirty years in Baltimore, Dr. Pickens opened her home for Halloween when she invited children into her home to learn about crystal and fine art. The tradition continued in Ponca City where for the past twelve years she has distributed rolls of pennies to children and as she remembers their names from year to year and talks to them about their lives. In 2016 over 450 children visited her home during Halloween. The Pickens family will be continuing Dr. Pickens' Halloween tradition.
Dr. Pickens was especially proud to have sponsored the first formal dinner in the Marland Mansion in 70 years when she and her husband invited ten guests to share dinner at the mansion with her in 2016.
Dr. Pickens is survived by her husband Hugh Pickens, her stepdaughter Carolina Pickens Jachnke of Rohnert Park, CA, her stepson Daniel Pickens of Stockholm Sweden, and step-grandchildren Keanu Jahncke Pickens of Rohnert Park, and Lily Jane Pickens, and Rory James Pickens of Stockholm.
Additionally she is survived by her sister-in-law Gail Pickens-Barger and her husband Steven Barger of Port Neches, Texas. Her nieces Amber Barger & her husband, Caveh Masem of Houston, Texas; Rachel Barger Turnley & her husband David C. Turnley of Ann Arbor, Michigan; Derek Barger of Houston, Texas; and Grace Barger of Port Neches, Texas. A great-niece, Dawson Elizabeth Turnley of Ann Arbor, Michigan.
Dr. Pickens is survived by her mother-in-law, Deloris Pickens of Ponca City, Oklahoma.
Before she went to Alabama in 1963, where she was assaulted for desegregating lunch counters, her father told her never to flinch when she was struck by segregationists and to turn the other cheek when she was beaten. Before she left for the South, her father made her commit to memory the poem Invictus by William Ernest Henley which was her favorite poem and sums up her life.
Invictus by William Ernest Henley
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.
It matters not how straight the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.
Ponca Playhouse Produced a “Celebration of Life” for Dr. S. J. Pickens
The Pickens Family held a "Celebration of the Life of Dr. S. J. Pickens" on November 25, 2017. "My wife told me that if she died, she didn't want people crying over her at a Memorial Service," said her husband Hugh Pickens, "she wanted us to wait a few weeks so people could put her death in perspective and then come together and celebrate her life with music and with people remembering the good times and telling stories about her." Anyone who knew Dr. Pickens and loved her is invited to the event.
Dr. Pickens served on the Board of Directors of Ponca Playhouse for five years and produced and sponsored the Playhouse's presentation of "The Broken Statue" and "Lydie Marland in the Afterlife." Ponca Playhouse is where Dr. Pickens felt most at home in Ponca City," says Hugh Pickens. “It is where she wanted this event to take place." The board of the Playhouse voted last Tuesday to have the event go forward and every member of the board is contributing to honor the event including President David Wilkie, Vice-President Meghann Borum, Treasurer Kat Long, and board members Chad Anderson, Ryan Brown, Matt Duplissey, Matt Prater, Donna Rubio, Sam Stuart, and Debi Vap. "I have asked Dave Guinn, one of her oldest friends at the Playhouse, to produce and direct this event," says Hugh Pickens, "He will be assisted by Brandon Haynes of the NOC Music Department who will be musical director of the program, Donna Rubio, who is arranging for food and catering, Kat Long, handling lobby management, Meghann Borum, who is handling licencing, Ian Wood, who will provide spiritual direction, and many others."
Hugh Pickens thanks the community of Ponca City for the overwhelming support they have given him and his family in this difficult time and especially thanks the people that knew Dr. Pickens and loved her who camee to her "Celebration of Life."
- Facebook - "Ponca Playhouse Mourns the Loss of Dr. S. J. Pickens" October 22, 2017
- Dr. Pickens sponsors first formal dinner at Maryland Mansion in 75 years December 18, 2016
- Dr. Pickens sponsors and produces "Oklahoma Pride" series at Ponca Playhouse
- Obituary in the Ponca City News October 24, 2017
- Celebration of Life in the Ponca City News October 29, 2017